Lots of updates…

It’s been pretty busy in our household lately. There are so many different focuses at the moment for Thomas.

Everyday is fairly routine but within that day there are lots of different things we need to work on. So many in fact that not everything gets seen to and I feel the pressure often due to this. I know that I cannot achieve everything I set out to achieve everyday but I like to feel that I’d like to try. If you catch me after a bad night with Thomas, those are especially harder days. 

You see, most children develop and achieve certain milestones and move onto something else. With Thomas, I’ve learnt pretty abruptly to leave all those expectations behind. I stopped the plunket visits early on and reading typical child development books because none of that could apply to our situation anymore. I was living with no expectations except to just see how things develop. For the most part of a year, it was extremely tough watching Thomas having seizures, develop dystonia, struggle with feeding, reflux, eczema, and the crying. I’m seen a lot of that so much so that I’m de sensitised to it. I don’t freak out about seizures, unusual spasms or aggressive crying because it has become a norm for us. Don’t get me wrong, seeing all of that does upset me and make me feel powerless to help. But I have learnt that freaking out does not help the situation at the time. It is best to focus on comforting Thomas. 

I get by most days by prioritising what needs to be done and what can wait another day. Like washing, that can definitely wait!

What I try to focus on with Thomas has often been the same for many months because Thomas needs more time to work on certain things. I’ll list those below with how each is going.

• We have been working on using his new cause and effect switches from the Speech Language Therapist. He seems to have clicked onto this idea pretty quickly. He will press it and either listen for it or respond.
• His sensory room that gives him independent playtime. He enjoys this but does not spend much time in it like he used to. He seems to be getting bored being on his back.
• He has his standing frame to practice bearing weight on his legs and hips. Thomas is still a little weary and unsure during this. There is a lot of crying and fussing as he gets used to new things. He does seem to want to push on his legs and lift his head more which is pleasing.
• A big focus is on feeding and keeping a track of how many mls water, formula, and solids and ensuring they are given timely. Thoma has been eating chunkier solids for about a week now which is an amazing development for him. He used to gag on chunkier foods but is now starting to chew a little first before swallowing. His cough reflex is strong so if food gets stuck, he seems to be able to clear it independently.
• Working on cup feeding to encourage more taken from the cup instead of through the tube. He seems to tolerate more when he is thirsty and more alert. Usually he can tolerate anywhere from 20 – 60mls. He prefers water and nothing else. We have tried a few different liquids but he always enjoys the water. So refreshing!
• I try to get Thomas on his tummy often during the day. He is enjoying being off his back and able to get his mouth to his hands easier this way.
• Assisted rolling, side lying, sitting with bearing weight on arms and hands, and bringing hands midline continue to be a therapy focus. Depending on how Thomas is feeling, we can get varying results however in general I believe that Thomas is developing an awareness of what he should be doing and is trying to attempt certain physical maneuvers independently like trying to roll and swing his hips over. His head control is improving. He wants to lift his head and hold it up for longer periods and at times look around the room. He seems to be opening his hands more. His right side in general is tighter, therefore weaker than the left side. 
• Vision therapy such as assisted play with me. We use certain IPad apps, playing with light up toys or bright coloured toys. I have noticed him using his peripherals a lot to try and look out of the left side at people, or things. He is starting to show that he can hold his focus for maybe 2 seconds or follow an item but this fluctuates depending on how alert he is.
• I have posted photos of Thomas on his Facebook page where he is often getting stuck in uncomfortable positions in his cot. To address this we have been using the Safe T Sleep to strap him safely in the middle of the cot. He transitioned straight away with no issues. The only problem now is that we only have 1 because they are not cheap and he’s been out of it for a day or so while it dries from a wash. Bit of a hassle but not the end of the world!
• Thomas is still attending regular twice weekly Conductive Education sessions. These are going really well. He is still receiving individual sessions as these best address his needs. 
• No news on the Gastromy surgery. We are still waiting! Patiently…
• Another focus that I am trying to be consistent with but sometimes let it slip is working on communication with Thomas. Things such as Objects of Reference that are small physical items or words I use repeatedly for certain situations so to help him learn associations and be prepared for certain things. At the moment it is letting him touch a nappy before a nappy change, touching a spoon before eating, or applying gentle pressure to his thighs when he is on his back to let him know he will be picked up or putting my hands under his arms and saying “up, up, up.” This way he knows he’ll be picked up. It seems to me that he is learning to remember these prompts because he will still and wait or when getting up out of a chair he will try to push himself out a little. He is also very cued in to his auditory environment. It’s not that he has super hearing. He’s just very tuned in and knows what certain sounds mean.
• Orally, Thomas continues to chat and babble away. He sometimes says words clear as and other times it is a bit harder to decipher. Words that he will say include hello, more, no more, mum, muma, love you, hello mum, no, and bang. He does not always say words functionally but he sure likes to practice them. Words he uses functionally are love you, mum, hello and more.

Thomas babbling and chatting.

http://youtu.be/ozArPSSh_jE

Thomas using the switch for the first time.

Hope you enjoyed the videos. Any questions, feel free to ask because maybe I left something out?!?!

Today in Auckland it’s raining so best to keep in doors. ☔️ 

Have a lovely day 😀

We NEED your help.

So after a year we finally heard back from the external advisors through ACC who have decided that our claim has not been approved because the treatment for both Thomas and I was appropriate and did not cause the injury that he sustained. It was a very detailed report and was quite informative regarding suggested causes for Thomas’ brain injury.

They have suggested that Thomas had an unexpected (and very uncommon) cerebral sino-venous thrombosis. It says that the incidence of sino venous thrombosis is rare but variable with an estimated incidence of 0.67 / 100, 000 children per year. It then further lists a few risk factors leading to the last one in the list, which is of course maternal pre-eclamptic toxaemia. And there it is!

I am no mathematician so I had to consult my calculator, I mean, my husband. So I am really gobsmacked! It works out to be 67 out of 10 million. That’s less than 1 per million. He really is the definition of less than a one in a million baby. You know I always read statistics and think that it’ll never be me. Well so it is…

And moving on to the topic of ACC. This means that we will face some struggles with equipment and funding in the future. Especially, where therapy is concerned. We decided to go down the private therapy road for physical therapy because we just felt that we had to do more for our boy. It’s so hard to find a balance between vision and physical therapy. Where vision therapy is concerned, I am very happy with the support through BLENNZ and the resources they provide. This is going really well. Thomas has days where you can see him quickly glance at something for 1 – 2 seconds which is a big improvement for him. Up until 5 months old, he didn’t look around at anything.

Where physical therapy is concerned, as his main caregiver at home, I felt I needed to be doing more with him. Thomas does have a VNT through the hospital but she has had to work really hard on sourcing equipment and this meant that physical therapy got put to the side sometimes (not all the time). Also, the VNT cannot come all the time, they have restricted funding allocations too. So we approached Glowkids and it was the right decision.

We are very fortunate to have a conductor who is a sensory specialist teacher at Glowkids. Thomas requires private sessions and these are not funded. It is not cheap. We only want the best for Thomas and to give him the best quality of life. For the new year I would love for Thomas to attend twice weekly however we cannot afford this. So, I have sat on the Givealittle page idea for a good while. I have finally decided to set it up in the hopes that we can access more therapy for Thomas.

Here is what Thomas’ therapy looks like.

Please help us by heading over to our Givealittle page either on the Facebook page or listed on the right hand side of this blog or below. It would mean so much to us to be able to give Thomas these opportunities. Please share with anyone you think will be interested in supporting us.

Thank you 💕

http://givealittle.co.nz/cause/mindingthomas

Thomas, he got skills!

Thomas has been working so very hard with his tummy time. It is truly amazing how hard Thomas and children with challenges like him work to learn how to navigate and coordinate their muscles to do what they want them to do. Conductive Education has made such a difference to me because it gives me ideas of how to help Thomas to work on certain goals such as gaining better head control. Recently Thomas has been working on guided rolling.

Normally Thomas has a bit of tummy time either elevated with a pillow/wedge or on the big gym ball. I have been easing him into tummy time on a flat surface and this happened. (Sorry it’s a bit fuzzy!)

Then this happened…

Back into it!

Whoa it’s been a while since I made a post! Week 2 of the school holidays flew by so fast. We had a great second week with Nana (my mum!) coming to stay for the week. Lots of busy busy happened and it seems that the busy just keeps on going.

Back into Conductive Education (CE) and BLENNZ this week. Thomas had a really good session with CE. I must admit it is sometimes a bit much to do Thomas’ therapy every day, and most especially when he is ill. Having recently been ill, we have managed to get back into his therapy properly again. I know the therapy is really good for Thomas but it’s no good for anybody if he’s feeling poorly. I want him to feel comfortable and thus receptive during his therapy. Thomas’ therapy includes some blanket swinging (to activate his vestibular sensory domain), guided rolling, head control work on a gym ball, leg and arm stretches throughout the day, head control work while being lifted on my lap, head control while sitting and being held. Common theme here is head control. It’s a big focus of ours at the moment. Thomas can lift his head and move it about but he can only hold it for so long so we are working to help Thomas gain better strength in this area. I believe that Thomas is making progress in this area but at his pace.

Same goes for his vision. I believe that his vision is improving because he seems to quickly glance at something and then look away quickly. He may do this a few times in a row which tells me he can see something and this is pleasing. What he can see I haven’t a clue but I know that he can so I am happy with this. Thomas continues to love his sensory room and spends lots of time in there during the day as well as playing with his tinsel or shakers.

Thomas had an EEG to check for infantile spasms. We haven’t heard back yet. Couldn’t get him to sleep during the process when instead he was wide awake after having a breastfeed and cooing. As I expected, he was very upset with the electrodes being put on his head and of course removing them at the end. I made sure to get all the paste out while it was fresh otherwise it dries in the hair and is a nightmare to remove later on. Thomas had his x ray as well and this went smoothly. In and out! No word yet on this.

Had a really informative, fairly positive meeting with Thomas’ dietitian. She was really lovely. She encouraged me to make Thomas’ own meals which I have always been keen on but haven’t found the time or energy to do. She had some ideas on foods we can give him to encourage him to gain weight. His weight has gone downwards on the graph that they keep track of so she said we’ll be watching this carefully. She did say that he looked really healthy which is good. Thomas’ eczema has been better lately since I cut dairy out of my diet. Did you know that Oreo’s are diary free? Also, Almond Milk is quite yummy. I am thinking that this dairy free diet is a good idea as it means I am restricting a lot of stuff that I would normally eat that is not that great for me like chocolate, ice cream, cream cheese and biscuits like shortbread yum yum! Unfortunately cruskits contain milk solids WHAT!?

Anyway, on the topic of food, we bought a hand blender. Mum and I were busy making all sorts of meals. I can’t believe how easy it is. Thomas doesn’t seem to notice the difference in taste either. Another exciting thing I’ve noticed him doing lately (but not always) is chewing with a coordinated tongue action and it’s amazing! Another big development this last week is that Thomas has been having most of his meals in his seating system. At first he didn’t like the chair and his head kept dropping but he’s getting used to it and learning to raise his head for food. I sometimes need to help him keep his head up and he doesn’t seem to mind this either. I am so relieved that he is adapting to this new seating system.

 

Respite care is going really well although Thomas cannot bottle feed, we are using a spoon to give fluids for now as well as lots of solids. The syringe was really tricky and it’s not the safest option. The dietitian recommended a special cup we can try. That appointment is tomorrow. This weekend will be the first time since Thomas’ birth that I will be spending longer than 4 hours away from Thomas. (excluding NICU of course!) I will be attending a conference for PVI (Parents of Vision Impaired). Here is the link for their website if you would like to learn more: http://www.pvi.org.nz/ 

A pic of Thomas and I at the new cafe, Route 16, in Kumeu. I have finally managed to update the ‘Epilepsy’ page on my blog. I am currently working on the ‘Cerebral Palsy’ page and ‘NICU’ is still incomplete. 

School Holidays Week 1

So we’ve had the new buggy and seating system for a wee while now.

How’s it going? Well, like all new equipment, it is taking Thomas time to settle in. The good news is that he doesn’t seem uncomfortable while in the seat and while it is in motion he seems pretty content.

Unfortunately (I hate that word!) he still gets titchy when we stop the buggy in motion but Thomas is the same in the car when it stops at traffic lights. Blimey red lights! Anyway, that can’t be helped and I’m sure this is something that many other bubbas get finicky about?! I don’t actually know this but I’m sure it can’t just be Thomas doing it hah! Also, as part of Thomas’ eye condition, motion is ideal for him as opposed to being static so I can totally understand this. Anyway, the other difference I have noticed for sure is that Thomas is more exposed in the buggy because like other prams, they usually have a cover or sides whereas his buggy doesn’t have that. So he’s very… out there in the open.

The seating system is not going so well. We have had his lovely speech therapist around to watch him feed in it and Thomas is struggling to move food to the back of his throat so yeah your right, it all comes out, well most of it anyway! His tongue thrust, I’ve been told, is most likely due to his condition. I’m assuming this must mean, his poor muscle tone. His head keeps falling forward because he doesn’t have full head control so the seat itself cannot, so far, support his head. I’ve been told there isn’t anything else we can try so this means that I must feed him while holding him. At the end of the day, I’ll do whatever I can to get food into Thomas because his weight is another concern. I want to ensure that he gets as much food as he can so that he can grow and have enough energy to do therapies too. So, I’ll feed him in my lap for now.

Thomas’ weight is going to be carefully tracked by his GP. She also gave us a special authority to access formula that would not upset his tummy or skin. We tried (at the pediatrician’s request) to keep giving him normal formula but he started to develop a red rash instantly on his face. His GP was very understanding. It is so good to have a GP that is willing to do whatever she can to help. I often find the pediatrician’s do not see Thomas as often and due to this are quite distant, or as willing.

We are also having no luck with a few different types of bottles and teats. Thomas refuses to latch. He’ll just push away, cry, gag, or munch on the teat. Our options are to try cup feeding, positive sensory touch, syringes (in desperation and most obviously with great care!), persevere with the bottle or try an orthodontic type teat. It is most frustrating because he has latched a few times before but for some reason he just doesn’t want a bar of it. I would like to be able to leave him with a carer but it’s not that straight forward feeding wise.

Thomas is working his way back into having regular meals of solids after going off them during his cold. He is quite fussy with what he likes. At the moment his favourites are kumara, carrot, pumpkin or potato. He’ll be weighed by the dietitian who is coming next week so it will be interesting to see if he’s regained the amount he lost. Next week we also have his follow up EEG and hip x ray. I hate the process of EEG’s. We have to make sure we keep him up so that he is tired enough to fall asleep during the EEG because they get better readings of the brain’s activity that way. This is particularly difficult to do because Thomas will be over tired and get really worked up when they apply what feels like a trillion electrodes (only like 30!) to his head with glue and tape. Thomas is very sensitive to touch. So, it’s not a very fun experience for anyone. I always feel a little sorry for the person facilitating the EEG because they must find it tricky trying to concentrate with all that crying and screaming. This will be Thomas’ 4th EEG this year!

Because it’s the school holidays, Thomas does not have his BLENNZ playgroup or Conductive Ed therapy sessions. It is quite nice to stay at home and concentrate on his new buggy. I have managed to take him out to see Daddy at work too! I am looking forward to having my mum come to stay and help out. We have also managed to find our own carer and can start to use the respite hours. She will be starting tomorrow.

Hope everyone is keeping well and enjoying the new season settling in. The weather being a bit warmer and sunnier certainly helps cheer me up. 🙂

Pics below of Thomas in his seating system. The chair can be removed and placed in the A Frame system below or in the buggy frame. We are trying to pop him into the chair at once every day so that Thomas gets used to it.

Ah-choo, Cough, Splutter, and Spew Ew!

Yip the title sums up the past week with a new, most unpleasant milestone achieved.

Thomas’ first official cold. 9 months old. Not bad really.

I have to say that I fully jinxed it too. I was literally having a conversation with Joe a few days before it all started saying how we are fortunate that Thomas hasn’t had a cold yet considering that he has immuno-suppression in all. Bugger!

I think that the last few posts Thomas hasn’t had a great time with his eczema and constipation so it’s just been an add on with the addition of the cold.

I don’t know what it’s like to have a typical developing, healthy child with a cold but I’m sure it’s not quite the same experience. I’m sure that it’s the same in the sense that it can make any bubba upset (including parents!) and most especially clingy needing lots of comfort like cuddles. Thomas has certainly been wanting more cuddles.

A plain old cold is a dangerous threat for Thomas due to his immuno-suppression. He’s been put on antibiotics as a safety precaution even though he doesn’t have a fever. It’s really scary because if it develops into a fever we have to take him straight to hospital. For the first time ever, Joe and I kept Thomas in our bed so that we could keep a close eye on him. Just for one night. I didn’t sleep. Thomas was twitching in his sleep and kicking me non-stop! Another scary side effect of Thomas being sick is that his tightenings have come back. Thomas had these tightenings when he was having his infantile spasms. They look like exaggerated startle reflexes although Thomas cannot control when they come on and they are frightening to observe. Thomas also gets distressed when they come on. His whole body stiffens while his legs and arms extend outwards. When he stiffens it can be for 1 – 3 seconds and during this time he holds his breath. We were able to see his pediatrician and she was able to observe this. We believe that it is more likely a movement disorder. He has another EEG coming up soon in October to check for infantile spasms. Because Thomas is not feeling so good, his eczema and constipation have flared up and the tightenings have been waking him or stopping him from drifting to sleep. His whole body tone has really fluctuated this week between really floppy to stiff.

As I write the above I am aware of how it may all sound but for me the purpose is in tracking and recording how Thomas is developing along his journey. Some of it good, some of it not so good.

His pediatrician is referring Thomas to a dermatologist just to see if there is anything more we can do for his skin. The skin test showed no food allergies. He has also been referred to have another xray sooner than planned. He is supposed to be having 6 monthly hip/pelvis xrays for subluxation. He isn’t due to have another till next year sometime but the pediatrician is concerned about his right hip. His legs both point one direction and lately they have not been straight. Sometimes his legs do scissor and boy are they tight. Makes for very difficult nappy changes!

Now, something positive!

Thomas is able to hold onto the shakers and sometimes he gets them to his mouth. It is the most amazing thing ever! At Conductive Education, his teacher gave him two shakers to hold. Of course I thought he’d drop them straight away like he normally does. But no! Joe and I looked at each other in utter surprise but also glee. Thomas held onto them for quite some time. So at 9 months, Thomas can hold onto a shaker and sometimes bring it to his mouth. We went and bought some nice bright coloured shakers and I have been getting Thomas to play with them every day. He is now quite content to play with his shakers. For me, the most awesome part of all this is the cognitive development that is happening. It is most magical to see how many steps it takes to achieve something such as this. Such as; Thomas is aware of the shakers being there in his hands, he knows to hold onto them which requires a tight grasp, he knows to move them in a specific direction to his mouth, he knows that his mouth will make contact with the shakers and where his mouth is. It blows my mind! I’m so proud of Thomas. I know that he’s been so determined to independently get something or anything to his mouth for oral stimulation. And of course, some pics of his awesome achievement.

More and more… referrals and medications!

I know that the last post I made was a wee while ago and that the busy-ness was overwhelming. Well, I don’t think it’s necessary for me to say in every post how busy we have been. It’s like that all the time now. I know that we all have our own busy lives to lead and it certainly makes the time fly too. I think that this ‘busy’ world I have been thrown into was not at all the sort of ‘busy’ I had dreamed, hoped, yearned for. I’m mostly accepting of it on a day where Thomas is stable “health wise” and is generally happy for most of the day. I only ever want for Thomas to be happy. I have accepted that we will have days or weeks that are really rough. 

This past week has been rough for Thomas and I. Not only was his sleeping all over the place for reasons for which I’m still unsure of but the week has ended with some new medications and more referrals. 

Thomas skipped his Conductive Education session on Monday because he was really grizzly. On Tuesday, Joe and I both went to the BLENNZ Homai Playgroup together. Although Thomas was a bit off still, he had a good session exploring different objects. He especially loved a medium sized, bright red, fluffy crab that vibrates when touched. He sat there in my lap, kind of semi grasping it (Go Thomas!) and seemed quite content. I will need to hunt down something similar like that. I will post a short clip of him with it shortly on his facebook page! 

Wednesday, Thomas’s VNT came with his new sleeping system to trial and it was immediately evident that the sleeping system was too big for Thomas. It is like a giant bean bag that molds a certain way to support Thomas to lie with correct posture while sleeping. Well, it swallowed him up! The VNT and I both agreed that it wasn’t right and perhaps when he’s bigger he can move into using this kind of sleeping system. This has become a big part of our world for Thomas – equipment. It’s about trialing equipment and finding what’s right for him. I find this process the hardest because there’s never any guarantee that a piece of equipment will work for Thomas and you end up spending a lot of time waiting for it too. We are still waiting for a seating/buggy system and a car seat. The seating/buggy system is the link below. We are really excited to be getting it in apparently less than 3 weeks!!!!! The car seat hasn’t been selected yet. The good news is that we can choose our own from Babyonthemove and once an application has been made, we may be waiting 3 months + Meanwhile Thomas’s current capsule seat is not giving him the support he needs and he is growing too long for it hence why the waiting game can be quite difficult!

http://shuttlediscovery.com/parents

Thomas did not go to BLENNZ on Friday, and instead we visited his GP. His eczema was proving difficult to manage with a really bad all over body mad flare up. He continued to be unsettled all week and I caught him straining to um, you know, make me a present hah! Well, after all that straining, nothing! He hadn’t gone for awhile so this led me to think maybe constipation or his lack of muscle strength to push? (cerebral palsy related) Well, we came back from the doctors on Friday with a plastic bag full of medication that included lactulose, antibiotics (just in case!), a new stronger ointment for the eczema plus some pinetarsol for the bath. So far the lactulose has helped big time. He is suddenly regular again. The ointment has eased his eczema too. The doctor thinks he needed something a bit greasier. She has made a referral for him to have an extensive skin test as well as see an eczema nurse specialist at Waitakere hospital. 

Thomas is also having a referral done to see a dietitian to ensure that he is eating enough because he is a little fella for his corrected and actual age. I believe that this might be due to his prematurity and having cerebral palsy. Thomas does seem to be eating fine with the solids but seeing a dietitian will be a good way to check that he’s getting enough or find ways to add fat into his diet if necessary. Our goal is to try and get him to feed from a bottle so I can have more than a few hours away for a break. This has proved tricky already. We went out and bought a bottle and the 0+ month teat flow was way too fast. We have since tried the Dr Browns as well and he managed to drink 40 mls and refused to have any more. At the time we didn’t know why but his spew about an hour or so later told us maybe his tummy didn’t agree with it.(Thomas very rarely spills) I also learned this week that the SLT can provide us with bottles for free for children like Thomas who struggle with feeding from a bottle. Who knew? His SLT is going to leave a few different brands with us to try out during the week. 

Today Thomas seems a bit chirpier as his skin looks to be clearing up and he is regular again. I knew that something was not right during the week because he wasn’t interested in his sensory room and was crying a lot. Even when held he was really upset. This was really distressing for me because I had been unwell with some viral thing that Joe brought home from work. It made me realise how hard it is when you’re unwell with an unwell bub. It’s not like I can call in sick! On that note, I’m feeling much better.

On the bottle.

As I look at my Thomas’s diary,  I can see that next week will be interesting. Yes, we have appointments everyday next week plus Thomas gets to see his ophthalmologist again. This is just a routine check up but Thomas has only seen the eye doctor once before when he was about 4 months old so it will be interesting to see if there is any developments/changes. 

I also had a very lovely phone call with the Parent2Parent support parent during the week and it was really great to talk to someone who completely understands. She gave me some really great advice so I am thankful for that. 🙂

Thomas playing in his play gym lying on the star pillow.

It’s only Wednesday!

Yip, you read that right. It’s only Wednesday!

So far this week has been a bit (just a bit!) of a downer really. We had a great session on Monday with Conductive Education and we were able to meet and work with two lovely therapists but to be honest it’s all very overwhelming. They have given me two detailed lesson plans of all the therapy work that I am to maintain at home. I think it’s wonderful that we have lots of new ideas for physical therapy to support Thomas but it is a lot of work to juggle and expensive (as in not funded) for the weekly individual sessions. A lot of it falls on me as Joe is working long hours, coming home late at night. What I have learned very quickly with cerebral palsy is that Thomas’ muscle tone fluctuates often during the week. Some days he is often very floppy or quite stiff. It can be really difficult on days where he is floppy and I don’t often achieve much with him those days and that’s fine. I go by his lead some days, especially when he’s had an unsettled night which is pretty much why this week is a bit of a downer. 

Thomas has been unsettled every night for the past week. Joe and I have been up a few times each night tending to him. Some nights were more straight forward like a poo nappy but others I have no idea! Thomas’ pediatrician wanted him to have a night of Oximetry readings to check on his heart rate and saturation levels (oxygen) while he sleeps. Because Thomas has been in and out of hospitals several times this year, we became quite confident with using one of these machines. It really made me realise that bringing equipment like this into our home blurs the lines a bit when it comes to wanting to have a healthy distance from anything hospital related within the home environment. We will also be using the machine again while Thomas trials his sleeping system which is meant to arrive tomorrow. The machine records everything for the night and then I’m thinking that we’ll be contacted if there was something not quite right. Thomas’ saturation levels do drop a bit low sometimes but only for a brief period. His heart rate is usually fairly consistent unless he’s having a seizure of course!

The connection probe on top.

In action. Ob’s looking good!

Due to Thomas’ low immunity at the moment his eczema has not been healing as well as it normally would. I’m diligent with the creams and bathing but the eczema just seems to be taking longer to heal. It’s a real pain in the butt because Thomas doesn’t like to be touched much and putting creams on him is quite traumatic for him and of course me for feeling bad for upsetting him. I have resorted to putting calming music on and cuddles part way through the creaming process. Thomas absolutely loves his cuddles. He loves to snuggle his head right into my neck and it’s a lovely feeling knowing that this gives him comfort. 

This week I’ve also made the decision to cut Plunket visits because our last visit from the new nurse went so poorly. She came late, she had no idea about Thomas’ history, and referred to him as a she multiple times even though corrected. We have had at least 11 medical appointments this month alone, not including playgroup so I’ve decided that Plunket can’t offer what we or Thomas needs. I am going to have Thomas get his checks done with his GP who is a really wonderful GP. I tried to ask Plunket for advice but they seem out their depth with offering advice appropriate to Thomas’ needs. I also made a dreaded call to Parent2Parent too. I made contact with them in May looking for support. They couldn’t find anyone in Auckland so did a national match and told me someone (a support parent) would be in contact. No one ever called. 😦 Anyway, I finally got around to calling them with feedback and it turns out that the person who made the match had left the company and the support parent who was intended to ring me had a car crash! The lady I spoke with was very lovely and apologised because someone still should have let me known otherwise. Being a parent of a child with multiple special needs is lonely but more so lonely when Parent2Parent can’t find someone on their national database to support you!!

We received a letter from ACC. Before I even open up these letters I can feel my stomach turning. They are still working through Thomas’ injury claim and are seeking external advice regarding my care while in hospital. I have been through my own medical notes and it’s apparent that my blood pressure checks were not as closely monitored as they should have been. My blood pressure got ridiculously high while in hospital hence the emergency c-section but it’ll be up to the external parties investigating this as to whether or not my care was appropriate and satisfactory. His claim has been open since birth, nearly 9 months! I think there’s a bit more waiting to be had.

I’ll end on a positive note because despite the challenges, there are some lovely moments – a lovely colleague from Joe’s work gifted us some Christmas lights which we have used to ‘kit out’ Thomas crib. The idea is to put the lights on for a little while for him while he is in a playful mood. In the last month, Thomas has conveyed a definite awareness of seeing bright lights so this is why the Christmas lights are an ideal so that we can stimulate his vision. 

Oh and here’s a cheeky pic I found on our camera the other day! It’s an older pic from a few months back.

Pokey tongue action.